We were sitting in her car in December, parked in a lot that had once belonged to Little Rock's University Mall. This past year, we’d settled into an uneasy truce. Which means I, from an early age, began arming myself with language and that I, from an early age, began crafting ways to double down on my right to desire white men. She’s the type to say things like this to my face. My older sister has been calling me an Uncle Tom my entire life.